This year there are 29 days to celebrate love. But only one day to do so nationally. I hope everyone finds their love pot filled, or at least half-full. I'm not one to define love for you but I will be the one to celebrate any kind of love with you. It has different meaning for everyone. I've only known unconditional love when I held my daughter for the first time many years ago. She's still my first true love. She can hurt me. I'd still want to take care of her. I question my ability to do the same for a significant other.
Many hearts will be filled with happiness this month. Some will be broken. It's a dichotomy: some thrives on it while others sink. It's complicated only because it comes in many variations and forms. Regardless of shape, it's still a passionate feeling of something. So for this month and many months thereafter, I wish you carry this little piece of passion with you. Let it lifts you. Be elated. But I also wish you patience if you are waiting for it to come. Valentine cookies from the person who knows how to get to my heart quickly. My pot is filled. Welcome 2024. I think a lot of people are with me on the excitement of this new year. It can't be said enough how hectic 2023 was. For the world to see terrorism over and over again, wars after wars, craziness has become part of our normal. The visuals only sting during a lapse of consciousness. Those with the most weapons and money get to dictate what is right and just. Root cause of war is discussed in hindsight. But the immediate cause of war justifies displacing 2M+ people and destroying one of the most populated cities in the world. I'm so lost in these extremes. Maybe it's today's view of cancel culture. Kids can't read books that are considered bad, even if judged by only one person. We are so divided. Society is rough. Young people recording fights for more "likes" on social platforms to gain sponsorship. Adults making outrageous claims to stay relevant. Patients tell doctors how to treat them from internet med school. Common sense is consistently left out of conversations. It used to be let them question your intelligence with your silence rather than confirming their theory with your boisterousness. After a tumultuous year, here's to a calmer 2024. May peace and health stay with you. May you have the strength to be you, your ultimate true self. I hope you find joy in the little things that surround you daily to perk up your days. Aging takes us down inevitably so you might as well enjoy the journey now. Me at the end of 2023...wiped out. December was an extremely busy month as we try to accommodate all the last minute appointment requests.
This year we have had our fair shares of many unfortunates. We also have had our fair shares of unbelievable good fortunes. I think it's just a part of life: the good and the bad, the lesser and the blessed. Life gives us unexpected circumstances. Sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don't. But if we just remember that we learn more from hardships, then maybe we wouldn't be so hard on ourselves for our failures. Our team has gone through some dizzying situations. We have accepted that we might have to deal with it for another month. There are conditions that we cannot control, as there are people we cannot influence no matter how hard we try. Some people are just shameless. They lie and cheat with no hesitation. Even as we cruise under a dark cloud, we also receive so many gratitudes. We had patients and colleagues sending their appreciation for our work and assistance. For the first time in my career, a patient gave me a tip because he has found his dental home after more than 10 years of absenteeism. Needless to say, Bob and I went for Korean BBQ lunch that day. It was fun. We apologized to our afternoon patients for smelling like BBQ smoke. Hardship does bring people together. We are stronger today as a team. We learned to keep moving and keep laughing. Everyday is a new start. We are thankful for the continual support of our wonderful dental families. We succeed because we have great patients. We look forward to seeing you all in 2024 and meeting new people along the way. Have a great time with your families this Thanksgiving. Lunch at the Korean BBQ restaurant courtesy of our patient's generosity. Team MacGyver- we had a long case and had to use a lid to keep moving without blinding ourselves. It's team work that makes the dream work. As difficult as it was, we finished the case cracking ourselves up because we were "innovative."
2023 has been such a bad year for so many people. With the Russian-Ukraine war not yet done, and the Israel-Hamas war starting..no words can rationalize the cruelty of revenge. More than 11,000 collateral lives lost in Gaza thus far, almost half of them being under 18 y.o. Every war is complicated. We should always remind each other that there is usually a long history of aggression in wars and fingers are typically pointing in the opposite direction of self. Within one month, we saw more than 14,000 lives lost. Also, within one month, I attended 2 celebrations of life. One expected and one unexpected. One lived his life to the fullest, the other drifted through. Worldwide, we have a current humanitarian crisis in the Middle East. In the Bay Area, we have a homeless crisis. We have a lot of crises but it'll become a political issue if I address everything. Then again, almost everything is a political issue or somehow will offend someone. But this weekend during my walk, I saw people gathering and heard laughter so loud, it was contagious. I saw young girls cheerleading, young boys with their footballs and young men with their cars all on display. It was such an exuberant atmosphere that it could lift anyone's mood. For so long, there was darkness and clouds. For one bright and warm day, there was happiness galore. Maybe the weather can rebuild our society again and lessen our aggression towards each other by bringing people outside to socialize. Picture 1: Young men and their decked out cars on display. There were lots of cool cars to admire. Picture 2: Young boys playing football while the girls are getting ready for a cheerleading contest. Such a fun and joyful event. 2 different events on the same day at nearby locations. The other day I was standing in line at Costco with my son to pick up our food order. The line was long and we were waiting for a few minutes already. A second employee yelled out his window that it’s now opened. My son and I waited for people in front of us to move to the second line first. Suddenly, an adolescent boy ran to take a spot in front of me. His mom chased and immediately chastised him about cutting in line. He replied in English, “I didn’t cut.” Then in Vietnamese he said, ”They’re dumb. They’re slow so I’m here.” She explained that he mistook politeness for slow and dumb. He refused to leave.
Normally, I would just let it go but I was so happy to hear the mom's explanation that I turned to her and said she was absolutely correct. I was waiting for others in front of me to move first because they had been in line longer. I turned to the boy and said I was not dumb or slow. I was being courteous and polite. Embarrassed, Mom apologized and tugged for the boy to go back. Instead, he stayed put and went up to the window to retrieve his order. The result was not ideal. But I love that this mom was teaching her son social mannerisms. It used to be being polite and courteous to others are expected societal virtues. The boy was about 12 y.o. so he has time to learn. It makes me happy when I see people extending common courtesy to those around them. They don’t even have to be nice, just not so mean. As a gentle reminder to our religious folks, love thy neighbors. For the spiritual yogis, please be kind of my light as I will be to yours. For our atheist friends, respect human rights and common decency. |
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